Respond to post 1 and 2
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Larsen and Buss (2014) explain that “identity deficit” is a time in which someone is very uncertain about what life decisions are the best for him or her; as well as, a time where someone can be influenced easily by the values of another person. In other words, an identity deficit is a motivational crisis.
While reading about the definition of identity deficit I feel like I enter this stage a bit. Especially in terms of school and what direction I want to take. One of the moments that sticks out to me would be the years that followed the death of my grandmother. I had spent several years caring for her, so in a way she was the foundation of how I made life decisions (e.g., what I could and could not do or what I had to reschedule because her needs came first). When she passed away I had no clue college was even an option for me. I was stuck in a state of “I don’t know” and was unsure how to get out of it. Luckily, my mother was there to help and she set up my enrollment for a local college. I never regretted her being proactive with my enrollment; it is one of the reasons I am here today.
Another identity deficit that I experienced was when I graduated from that college. I was, once again, unsure as to what I wanted to do with life. I even made a rush decision and enrolled in a different school before realizing that was not what I wanted to do; the fit wasn’t right. In the moment, you think you are making the right decision, but after taking a step back it can be wrong. I had to stop and make myself decide which direction to go; continue with the school I had enrolled in or go a different school. I chose the latter and I honestly think it was the best option for myself.
Emotional states are temporary effects on the personality, while emotional traits are more permanent aspects of one’s personality (Larsen & Buss, 2014)
Personality traits help to define how one approaches situations in everyday life.
For example, someone who is angry in nature would react negatively to a waitress that makes a mistake on the order. The person would be more likely to get frustrated at the waitress, causing the waitress to either mirror the emotion or become more frazzled. However, someone who is calm, or understanding, in nature would be more likely to understand the order mistake.
Although angry was used to describe the first person in my example, happy states can be experienced. For example, the person could be promoted, newly married, or some other major life event that evokes positive feelings. Alternatively, the calm person from my example can experience feelings of anger in certain situations.
Moving on to question five: What is an identity deficit? “An identity deficit arises when a person has not formed an adequate identity and thus has trouble making major decisions” (Larsen & Buss, 2014, p.254). Growing up in a poor, rural community with little interaction with professionals or college graduates; I had experienced an identity deficit regarding the pursuit of college. I had no identifying reference with my personal interests, or professional strengths. I chose to not attend college right away, and decided to take an opportunity for a free six-week class to earn a CNA (Certified Nursing Assistant) license. This was helpful in gaining personal information regarding my strengths, as well as finding out to what degree I enjoyed helping others. Thus, I was able to navigate through my identity deficit, and experience personal growth as I learned something about myself.